tl; dr / grow a pair

As one of the above posters said, she's got some shit going on that's beyond male comprehension. She probably doesn't even know what she wants. There really is only one tactic that has any chance of salvaging it. If you continue on your current course, you're going to be permanently "friended".

Here it is - you need to bang someone else and make sure she knows about it. Seriously. All the better if you pick said girl up at a bar in front of her, dance a bit, make out, and then take said new girl home. She needs to know she can't drag her feet, and needs to see that you'll bounce elsewhere if she keeps this shit up and she'll miss her chance. Plus there's a lot of basic female psychology you'll trigger that will make her want you after seeing you with another hot girl. Do it, don't apologize.

She is a women if you were suppose to understand she'd tell you in black in white. In other words, just keep it moving. Lastly, yes you're being petty..holding a grudge over a girl no need no time. FBGM

Duuuude, you're letting her play you. You gotta let her know that you got bigger fish to fry. I don't mean that you should completely ignore her, but make sure she understands that your time is important. Girls aren't that difficult once you understand they want your attention (initially)....eventually they want much more, sometimes more than you'd be willing to give up for them.

I say you say hi to her and make small talk, but show no aggressive emotions. Make sure you act like you got other things going on in life (hopefully you actually DO have other things going on).

Good luck, if it doesn't work out make sure you play your cards right on the next one.

Oh yea, some Paki girls are pretty hot, hotter than indian girls (unless you're dating a bollywood actress), just my opinion.

wow... here's a free lesson

1) From the book of Insecuritas (9:14:1): 'Treat a girl like dirt and she'll stick to you like mud.'

When you see her, tell her that it's nice to see her, and that she shouldn't listen to "what everyone has been saying" because she doesn't look "all that bad". Then don't talk to her. She'll get pissed and her insecurities will start to eat her alive... and she'll skype you within the next week looking for some sort of validation. If she complains say "listen woman, why the fuck you trying to stress me all the time? We haven't even fucked *yet* and you act like we're married... you scare me"... She'll be mad and likely act all offended and hang up... just wait - patiently. It won't be more than 48 more hours till she calls TO APOLOGIZE TO YOU. At that point, suggest perhaps that she takes you out for a drink to say sorry... proceed to get smashed and then do work on that ass... she'll be begging for it, wondering if she really is looking ugly or if you still want her.

Class dismissed

Very simple: You say hello to her but then immediately begin talking to another girl. She will most likely get jealous and try to pry herself between you and your new interest. This is the important part, you stay on target like Jek Tono Porkins and give her nothing.

She will then be all over you.

Dude. paki girls are like that. Esp if she is muslim. Just keep it chill and get her jealous....works a charm.

Good grief man, I couldn't even finish reading your post, let alone the comments. Honestly, just start talking to every hot chick you can and let the chips fall where they may - DO NOT let this woman waste any more of your time. Everyone's been in your situation, but if you're still there tomorrow, it's your fault.

You're a sensitive boy, aren't you RatinaMaze?

If you'd had banged her harder then you wouldn't have this shit to clear up.

First up, feel bad for you. Issues like are messy and anything, you do you cant win.

Figure out whether you actually still want her. As someone said, you sound like a sensitive guy. The last thing you want is to see her and all those feelings come rushing back to you. Then you're fucked, because you're inevitably gonna go running back to her, trying to impress her etc. So you say, you want to be friends, make sure that is the case then.

If you wanna be friends, all you can do is wait for her to approach. Don't approach her. Test her, does she wanna hang with you? If she waits for you, keep her waiting.

If you still want her, I say you dont go to parties at your graduation if you're gonna make a fool of yourself. The last thing you want is to lose your dignity. Fuck this chick. NOT WORTH IT. I hate women who play these bullshit games. I think there's your answer already. Women, although complex creatures, usually know what they want. If she wanted you, I dont think she would have avoided you. She wants to hang out, she would be there. Also, in terms of avoiding you, you must have fucked up somewhere along the way. Look back..

The on thing you have going for you is that she will be seeing you after a little while, so there's bound to be something there, and its up to you how you spin it.

Surprised you actually managed to score with a Pakistani girl, let alone one from Pakistan. So well done on that I guess. And I know some Pakistani girls and they are indeed hot.

Having said all that dude, get some self-esteem.Get over her. She isnt independent enought to select her life partner herself. you can call it cultural, racial or whatever difference but the reality is that there IS a huge difference.

You shouldnt reply to her overtures or whatever. she needs to figure her life herself. She led you on, filled you with hope and then bailed. Move on. Let her live her life and you live yours. Learning experience.

If there's nothing there, walk away.

dude she is not the only smoking hot girl you know (whether pakistan or not) and she will not be the only smoking hot girl you know and fall for.

i think it totally depends on what you want out of your "friendship" or "relationship". if you want to bang bang, then just bang bang. if you want to play the mental game, dude, you're torturing yourself.

i had not the patience reading through the thread but did you try to treat her the same way she did to you? i.e. ignoring her calls/messages/voicemails without replying? if not, do that, and you will get the answer you want.

of course we all got hooked up (or fell for) with someone. More than once. you got a future and you don't want to waste too much time and energy on this type of thing.

don't sound like a pussy. perhaps that's why she has been treating you that way. sort out yourself first and when the time comes you will know what's right for you. meanwhile, enjoy it now - whether you get to bang bang or not - i'm sure a few years later when you look back you'll find yourself silly and just laugh at it. everyone has been through this.

you never know, maybe you end up marrying her or two weeks later some hotter chick shows up and she happens to like you! so just relax dude and be a man!

I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one...dude grow a fucking pair and leave the chic alone. You've gotta frame it as HER being worth YOUR time, not the other way round. Go out and find other women and you'll be fine.

you are what we call in my community an average frustrated chump. listen to CaptK's advice, it's pretty bang on. literally.

If you don't want to be a dickhead, then just say hi, make some small talk, and move on. It seems to be consensus that you don't need to worry about this girl, ESPECIALLY if you're not even interested in her. Just don't be a douche when you do talk to her.

She likes you but isn't quite attracted to you but, at the same time wants to know you will be there to run to if she should so decide to need you at some point in the future. Do you like being Plan B? Cut her out of your mind and be cordial when you see her but nothing else.

Seriously: right now you're hurt, confused, and indecisive. Oh well....there are worse things to be. If you stay where you are now, you'll become bitter and twisted....so put an end to this NOW, end of discussion.

Ask out another girl and start spending your time on her.

painful to read, memories of a dark past ;-)

believe me, no reason to dwell over this. just act nice, happy and confident with her like you are, like nothing happened. do not cling on to her like a puppy. let her come to you if she is still interested, which she probably is not. otherwise just go on with your life. and keep the power to yourself from now on!

And yet, in something of a contradictory aside, I admire that you can feel this way about a chick. No disrespect meant to members of the female sex, but I can't imagine any babe being worth this type of emotional investment.

Where does one find this type of conniving, emotionally taxing creature? Is she dropping shits on men everywhere? Or are you the only person inciting this kind of response?