She probably has no idea about your feelings so making a big move might be too risky. I think maybe asking her to a movie or lunch, something casual, would be a good idea. Then maybe a week after you could ask her out to dinner which would be more of a date, and that way it'd be obvious without you really having to say it. If she says yes, she probably likes you, and if no, then well at least you got your answer.

You gotta create attraction...friendship is cool but it doesn't create attraction...How do you do it? You gotta talk to her about interesting things not the common things friends talk about (problems, work). You gotta tease her and make small jokes at her and then flirt and very importantly watch how she responds. You gotta show her that you are a price she would like to have, so you gotta act like you are the price. Hang out with another girl and make sure she knows about it and sees it. Leave her hanging by not telling her the full story about whatever. Don't be needy and beyond all stop being a caring friend. That's unattractive. A combination of these things might spur a spark of attraction in her (assuming you are alright physically) ...Good luck

Be more sexually attractive.

The fastest way to a woman's heart is through her sister [in your context: other hos]

Show her you're wanted by others and she'll realize she's sitting on an accessible treasure. When you show her you have options, you'll be all the more desirable. It's exactly like leveraging offers.

Tell her that your dad is from Canada

you are using right?

bro u gotta hop up out da bed, turn yo swag on, take a look in tha mirror say WHAT UP. Get dat money, throw some hunnets in her face and let her know u can ball.

then she gon know u fo real.

Ask her out to dinner and a movie, and a few more dinners after that. Escalate the conversation to something beyond the typical friend zone bullshit. Gauge her reactions. If positive, find the opportune time to let her know how you feel. If she says no, be cool with the fact that you at least have clarity. Not knowing where you stand with a lady is stressful. If you cannot be friends after that, it sucks, but so be it. You were not content merely being friends with her, so you went for it. All or nothing. You deal with the blow and move on.

Get her drunk and have her make some bad decisions involving you.

It's easier for her to think of you as 'boyfriend material' if you've already done something with her.

Date other girls and have her find out. Take her out to drinks. Feel her up and then escalate to kissing, groping and then sex. If she stops you, keep trying until she removes herself from the situation. Saying no but staying there means, keep going.

If you don't get anything after all that, she may not to talk to you again but who cares since you just dropped someone who you weren't sleeping with anyway.

So do lawyers.

However OP, from someone who got continuously friendzoned, I can tell you there are some very simple steps to take.

First of all, defriend yourself. Attraction for women is not the same as attraction for men. Availability and perceived desirability by others, is sadly in the top 5.

You are now only allowed to initiate conversation with her 30% of the time. (I'm quantifying this so you can keep track of it, measuring gets results).

You must decline at least 25% of the social invites where she will also be, be polite but evasive in your reasons. Make sure you know where they are going and dont go near there. Being caught at as a liar will do more damage than cutting your cock off. Also dont stay in your room, same reasons. i'm not a natural liar, and couldn't lie to a girls i like that much's face anyway, so the way I did this was to actually create other engagements to go to.

Hit the fucking gym, or if that isn't an option, find $200 and get yourself some free weights, a floor mat and a workout bench.

The perception in her mind you are trying to create is to go from: Guaranteed guy around who i like whenever i need him/get on with bullshit yada to:

Selfimproving guy who's getting what he wants from life and can pick any girl he wants, I want him to pick me.

It's all mostly an illusion.

If you cant be bothered to put that effort into yourself to get her, then I dont believe you'll put in the effort to keep her.

PM me for more info, my longer posts get tl;dr'ed so I kept this relatively short.

(from someone who went from no girls to never single, unattractive to an 9/10 (according to an underwear model). Personally I can't tell i look any different but I carry myself differently.

From a chick who has ALOT of male friends friendzoned. This guy has probably gotten the closest.
It's either a game... but there is the time investment factor.

Or you are up front. DO NOT listen to guys who say invite her to dinner etc without making it clear it's a date. I have seen this happen to many male friends of mine who don't get the hints from the chicks they are chasing that I pick up straight away. I think I may just write a book soon "She's just not that into you"

Was anyone else disappointed in Blastoise's response?

When it comes to girls you gotta put your balls on the table. But, if your already in the friend zone it's probably too late. I'd say your best bet is not to talk to her for a year or so, and when you do talk to her again make up a very interesting life story about what you've been doing and lie about how successful you are. Also, try to accidentally run into her when your with sleazy looking sluts.

Read this

http://laddertheory.com/

i liked that one.

kys

Take her on 3 dates.

After the third date you will feel if she cares for you in a romantic kind of way. If not say fuck her and delete her from her life, txt messages - im adresses - facebook - etc

It will make your life better, you won't think about her as often.

Trust me I had to do it when I have up Xbox 360 and World of Warcraft

im gonna lose my patience with this gimp soon. Do you want this girl or not? Put some fucking effort in, or better yet, give me her number and i'll remind you of the feeling you get when you see some dbag dating your girl.

it doesnt matter that they're airheads, its female competition.

put it this way. Your method hasnt worked. whatever you do will feel alien to you. Just spend the $ and get some weights anyway. Do it tomorrow. I'll help you if you put the effort in, don't and you're on your own, schmuck.

^ you gonna argue everything i say?

The very fact that a female is acknowledging that being kind to a girl, having intellectual conversations with her, getting to know her, laughing with her, giving her advice, helping her out in times of need is less effective than being a flirtatious dick with nice arms basically shows why men generally don't respect women or treat them well. I'm a genuinely nice guy, but I've picked up on this very fact that women have no souls and I've upped my game 10-fold the last 2 or 3 years as a result of it. It's a pathetic commentary on American/Western women.

The real gems are the percentage of women who buck this trend. If you find a woman who is more interested in a man's character than she's interested in playing games then you may have found wife material. Eventually looks fade and flirting loses its flavor--once that happens, all that's left is character, and as it is said, beauty is skin deep but ugly is clear to the bone.

Real Social Dynamics Julien -- How To Act Through Your Own Intentions And Still "Get The Girl"

http://youtu.be/6T9MeHV3dzY

WTF? WTF AGAIN?

I recommend that surgery where that can turn your vagina into a penis...it may not make you grow a pair of balls, but you can at least look in the mirror and say "i'm a man"

After reading this thread, I can't NOT post. I cringed so many times reading the posts...I really hope most of you were joking with your "advice"... I can't believe I'm actually giving out relationship advice on this forum, but this problem is simple. (I'm assuming you want to date her & have a relationship. If all you want is to have sex with her, I don't really know how to help you with that. So, you can skip everything I said below :/)

As a girl, I don't care if you have slutty girls hanging around you as arm candy or whatever you guys refer to. It may be a guy thing to say "Hey, check out how many girls I can date/bang. You know you want me now. ;D" It doesn't work that way with girls. If you did to that to me, I would think you're a man whore & wouldn't want a relationship with you. Women are usually very perceptive & know when they are with a cute/hot/sexy guy. If you're really that good of a catch, we women pick up on it and we can usually tell when other women are checking you out. So, don't try to be with other girls to rub it in her face to say you can get some. It usually doesn't end up working out as you want it.

Someone mentioned this before...Do work out. Do whatever you need to do to be your best self. Don't bother her with your problems unless she's willing to listen to you. You want to appear as if you're a catch. You're good looking. You got a good job with a decent salary. (Hopefully, she's not a gold digger & you should know whether she is or not by now) Be a happy person & be exciting by trying out new things & etc. Just be a gentleman...sometimes. Each women has a different type, and you've known her for 3 years so you should know what she likes & dislikes.

You already have most of the relationship down cause I think everyone wants a friend and a lover in their partner. You're already her friend. If she already talks about other guys with you, then you may be more in the friend zone...but it can be managed. Before you tell you like her, take her out to the movies or something casual. See if there's any chemistry or spark between you two. Be a bit more flirty. I don't know how good teasing would work. Guys tease me all the time & I don't think anything of it other than them being my friends. Of course, my girlfriends have mentioned that it's a 3rd-grade thing to do when a guy likes someone, but still, I don't think anything of it. But if you are teasing her, make it more flirty than casual teasing. Casually put your arm around her shoulder & see how she reacts if you don't do that already. If she's stiff & uncomfortable, back off. Try it again after some time, and if you get the same reaction, she probably doesn't like your touch.

I don't know how "friendly" you both are so I suggested having your arm around her shoulders. If you both are pretty touchy with each other, you can skip this step. If you're not, get her used to you touching her. (In appropriate areas! Haha) Have your arm around her waist or on the small of her back or her upper arms & then her hand or give her your arm for her to hold. Compliment her on how she looks or how good her hair smells. If you're at the movies, have your arm around her chair or lean in & talk near her ear. It's actually a turn on since ears are pretty sensitive. If she's tired, casually cup the back of her neck & massage that area. The neck is also pretty sensitive...Don't do this all in one date of course, and make sure you're realize how she's reacting to your touch. If she's ok with it, continue. If she's uncomfortable, back off - you probably aren't her type. Take her out to dancing to a club or to actual dancing places like tango or wherever. Obviously, parts of your body will be brushing against each other & you both will be in each other's personal space...you'll know if you have chemistry & if the moment comes up, kiss her. If there is no chemistry or spark after all that, um...I can't really imagine you both having a good sex life so maybe it's best if you both just end up as friends. Sex is important to both women and men. After all, who doesn't love a great orgasm? :D

Everything I mentioned above probably sounds stupid, but you mentioned she has friended so many guys. I don't know how friendly she is, but I don't let my friends touch me in those ways or let him in my personal space unless I was interested in him or attracted to him. She may be interested in you & attracted to you and maybe, she prefers the guys to make a move first. Maybe, that's why she has all those guy friends cause she's hoping one of you will make your move. I could be completely wrong. There are girls who prefer having guy friends instead of a boyfriend or a relationship. Make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend or interested in another guy casually before you proceed.

If you do see there is chemistry between you two & she's okay with you being "touchy", tell her you like her & want to date her. You have a reason to think that there's a chance she would like you so take a chance. She may say yes - if so, then congrats! If she says no, try to see how she says no. If she says it as if she would never be caught dead dating you, I'm sorry - she obviously isn't interested. (This can be avoided if you picked up on how she reacts to you being touchy) If she says it as if she's unsure, tell her to take some time to think about it & keep doing what you were doing & keep pursuing her. If she responds back to you or gets more distant, you have your answer either way. Sometimes, her being distant isn't all that bad either - it may mean she wants time to think about it without your influence. Don't they say distance makes the heart grow fonder or something? Maybe some time away from you will make her see what a great guy you are & she'll come around. If she does become distant, don't wait for her. Try to move on. If things don't work out & you want to be her friend still, then mention it & see if things can go back to normal.

Sorry for this long post. I hope I helped somewhat. If you want to talk about it still, PM me as well.

This follow-up post makes you sound like you have no fucking clue what you're talking about. Fyi.